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List of videos and additional information

Perinatal bereavement

These videos address issues pertaining to the baby’s death and to perinatal bereavement. You can also view them all on our Vimeo channel.


Documentary series: “Revenir les bras vides”

Episode 1: The day everything changed

Episode 2: Delivery day

Episode 3: Returning home

Episode 4: How do you help bereaved parents?

Supplemental information


The day everything changed: Additional information

Perinatal bereavement

Questions addressed in this video:

  • Is the duration of the pregnancy connected to the duration and difficulty of mourning?
  • Is there a difference between losing a baby early or late in a pregnancy?
  • How is the bereavement of a baby currently perceived by society?

Announcing a diagnosis

Questions addressed in this video:

  • Should you give birth immediately or take some time?
  • Why is it rare to have a caesarean in this type of delivery?

Announcing the news

Questions addressed in this video:

  • How do you announce the death of a baby to a child?
  • How can a parent explain their grief to others?

Palliative care

Questions addressed in this video:

  • Is palliative and end-of-life care the same?
  • What is palliative care?
  • How does the health care team accompany a baby’s family in palliative care?
  • How can families get involved in end-of-life care?

Bringing moral support

Question addressed in this video:

  • Can parents ask relatives to accompany them during the hospital stay?

The baby’s first name

Questions addressed in this video:

  • What should you do about naming the baby?

Memories

Questions addressed in this video:

  • How important are memories?
  • Why take pictures of the baby?
  • What is the Fondation Portraits d’Étincelles?
  • How do you request the services of Portraits d’Étincelles?


Delivery day

Your hospital stay

Questions addressed in this video:

  • What will the delivery day be like?

The delivery room

Questions addressed in this video:

  • What does the delivery room look like?

Team members

Questions addressed in this video:

  • What is the role of the spiritual care worker?
  • What is the nurse’s role in assessing perinatal bereavement care?
  • What is the role of the geneticist?

Managing physical and psychological pain

Questions addressed in this video:

  • How are parents supported through their suffering?

Delivery

Questions addressed in this video:

  • Why do some mothers get scared and no longer want to give birth?
  • When a baby dies before birth, what date is recorded?

Placental expulsion

Questions addressed in this video:

  • Does the placenta take longer to come out in this type of delivery?

Meeting your baby

Questions addressed in this video:

  • What is it like to meet the baby?
  • How long can parents spend with their baby if an autopsy is called for?

Care of the baby

Questions addressed in this video:

  • How does the nurse care for the baby after birth?

Siblings at the time of death

Questions addressed in this video:

  • Should we let our children come to the hospital or funeral?
  • What is a child’s reaction to death?
  • Why do some children try to make their parents laugh after the announcement of this sad news?

Siblings back at home

Question addressed in this video:

  • What are the issues facing other children in the home?

David’s story

Death and stillbirth

Questions addressed in this video:

  • What is a stillbirth?

Funerals

Questions addressed in this video:

  • Is it possible to plan a funeral for a baby?
  • What are the options for the disposition of the baby’s body?
  • How long do parents have to choose what they want to do with their baby’s body?
  • How is the burial done?
  • How can the baby’s siblings get involved at the funeral?

The disposition of the body

Questions addressed in this video:

  • Can we see the baby’s body one last time at the funeral home?
  • What is done with the baby’s ashes?
  • How do you obtain the ashes?
  • What are the legalities related to ashes?
  • Jewelry that can contain ashes.
  • Biodegradable urns.
  • Is the baby buried in a regular adult lot in a cemetery?
  • Is there a minimum weight required for a baby to be buried in a graveyard?
  • Do you have to bury the baby’s body in a cemetery?

Eligibility for work leave

Questions addressed in this video:

  • What are the different pregnancy leaves available for the mother?
  • Can the other parent take a leave?

Anticipating the return home

Question addressed in this video:

  • How do you prepare to return home?

Medical follow-up after delivery

Questions addressed in this video:

  • What is the postpartum follow-up appointment like?
  • What is the appointment with the geneticist like?

Nursing follow-up

Questions addressed in this video:

  • What is a follow-up with a grief counselor like?


The return home

The search for meaning

Questions addressed in this video:

  • How can we find meaning in the loss of our baby?

Reactions to grief

Questions addressed in this video:

  • Is the risk of depression higher after perinatal bereavement?
  • What are the signs of depression to watch out for?
  • Does perinatal bereavement make you start questioning your life and others?

Dealing with emotions

Questions addressed in this video:

  • Is it common to feel guilty?
  • What can help parents who experience this loss of control?
  • How do you regain a “normal” life or return to “normal”?
  • How do you deal with happy events, like a baby shower?

Grief and fertility

Questions addressed in this video:

  • Is the parents’ bereavement different with a pregnancy that was created through assisted reproduction?

Moving through grief

Questions addressed in this video:

  • Is there an end to grief?

Bereavement of the father or partner

Question addressed in this video:

  • Is it common for the partner to experience delayed bereavement?

Impact on the couple and loved ones

Questions addressed in this video:

  • How do you stay connected when a spouse returns to work?
  • What are the risks of separation during perinatal bereavement?
  • How does perinatal bereavement affect grandparents?

Remembrance celebration

Subject addressed in this video:

  • Tell us about the memory celebration at CHU Sainte-Justine.

Important dates

Questions addressed in this video:

  • What date do parents commemorate in the years following the loss?

Returning to everyday life

Questions addressed in this video:

  • How do you prepare to go back to work?

The baby’s room

Questions addressed in this video:

  • What do you do with the baby’s bedroom?

Future pregnancies and goals

Questions addressed in this video:

  • How do parents manage to regain control of their lives?
  • What do we recommend with future pregnancies?
  • How can parents be guided with a future pregnancy?
  • How do you announce a new pregnancy to children?

Resources for parents

Questions addressed in this video:

  • What resources can we suggest to parents?
  • What is the Parents Orphelins Association?
  • What about content on the Internet?


How to help grieving parents

Perinatal bereavement and loved ones

Questions addressed in this video:

  • Why is the intensity of perinatal mourning sometimes misunderstood?
  • Why do loved ones often avoid talking about the loss of the baby?
  • How do you continue on with happy events while respecting the mourning of parents?
  • What advice can you give to grieving grandparents?

Rituals and support persons

Questions addressed in this video:

  • What is the importance of rituals for those around you?
  • How does a ceremony help loved ones appreciate the full weight of the baby’s death?
  • Some say it’s excessive to do a ritual for a baby who has not lived. What do you think?
  • Parents often express the fear that their baby will be forgotten. What can loved ones do?

Connecting with bereaved parents

Questions addressed in this video:

  • How can loved ones help parents in mourning?
  • How do you approach someone mourning the loss of a baby?

Words to use

Questions addressed in this video:

  • How do you bring up the subject of losing the baby with parents?
  • How do you deal with your discomfort around the loss of the baby?
  • Can it be uncomfortable to bring your children when visiting bereaved parents?
  • What things should you avoid saying?
  • How do you discuss a new pregnancy with parents who have already lost a baby?
  • What is the importance of including deceased babies in the family history/tree?

Resources for loved ones

Questions addressed in this video:

  • Where can we find information on perinatal bereavement?
  • How can friends and family support the parents?

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Updated on 12/11/2019
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