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The baby and loved ones

How to help grieving parents

Some parents want their loved ones to see their child. By meeting the baby, their friends and family can better assimilate the reality of the death. All those who have shared a moment at the bedside of the baby will be able to fully realize that the baby existed and now occupies a place in the family.

It is normal to be apprehensive or reluctant to see a lifeless baby, however, you can approach the child at your own pace. People who have experienced this moment describe it as a poignant memory full of harmony and serenity. They say they are deeply affected, even privileged, to have been at the bedside of the baby. Some people may want to cradle the child, take a few minutes to say a few words, or commune, or simply touch their hand.

Some loved ones would rather just see pictures. These can be organized so that you gradually discover the baby. For example, you can start by looking at the photos of their little feet or hands. Then, if you feel ready, you can discover their face and look through other photos. In this way, you will be able to choose if you wish to see all the photos or only some of them.

If you are not comfortable meeting or seeing the baby, just tell the parents. They will understand.

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Updated on 12/11/2019
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