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Moving through grief

The grieving process

The grieving process and adapting to loss differ from one person to another. Every situation is unique, and everyone goes through the process at their own pace and in their own way. Your grief will manifest in many different ways, and it is normal that it persists for some time. You will need to allow yourself this time to grieve and learn to cope with the situation.

It is common to feel like maybe the heaviness of the situation is lifting only for it to drag you back down. Even though it sometimes feels like you have made no progress since day one, this is not the case; you are making progress even when you feel overcome with emotions. The path through grief is neither linear nor rational.

Crying and other manifestations of grief will reappear at times. Grief can cause you to lose sleep or lose your appetite or, on the contrary, it can cause you to want to sleep or eat constantly. And it is not unusual to go from one extreme to the other.

However, repressing your emotions or thoughts can be harmful to your well-being and your progress. These moments of intensity may resurface at a time when we least expect them. Trying to avoid emotions like pain can prolong the duration of the grieving process or accentuate the effects. Sooner or later, you will have to lean into the emotions welling up inside of you asking to be acknowledged and cared for.

For some people, the full force of their emotions don’t arise until well after the death of their child. Regardless of when you fully absorb what has happened and how you feel about it, it is important to cope with your reaction when it comes up. Mourning can take a long time, but the pain will eventually become less acute.

The time and support of a loved one or a specialist in grief counselling can help lower your level of anxiety, ease you back into enjoying life, and help you gain back control over your life. 

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Updated on 12/10/2019
Created on 11/7/2019
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